I've recently turned 18... Let me state the obvious: I haven't reached maturity yet. Then again, do we ever "reach" maturity? Is there one day where you're "fine" with your opinions and your vision of the world? Probably not. I guess real maturity is just another ideal.
Nonetheless, I have learned a few things in my life. It's no secret anymore, no great intellectual insight: school doesn't teach us half of the things that we actually need to learn for the real life. We can try to change that or at least improve it... But isn't the challenge to learn all these things by oneself a big step to become more mature as well? That's two possibles ways of seeing it and I think both sides got their points. And that's one of those big lessons that we need to learn:
You can't make everyone happy. Ever. You can try as hard as you like, but in the eeeeeend it doesn't eeeeeeven maaatter. Wait a minute...
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You'll have to excuse me. In fact, I didn't want to be that "pessimistic" and say that it wouldn't even matter.
It does matter, of course it does! Trying to make other people happy is a good thing, of course it is! But if you insist too much, if you try to bring all the people's thoughts and opinions on a common thread, you will end up hurting someone. In the worst case scenario, you will hurt the ones you care most about. This is because people are different. This is because you're not the only one here.
People are different. Men and women are different. Black people and white people and Asian people and Germans and Spaniards and Northern Spaniards and Southern Spaniards; they are all different from each other. We don't have to pretend that we're all equal. It's good to fight for the same level of chances and the same level of rights for everyone, but don't mix up equal life quality with equal people.
It's not about equalism, but about tolerance. It's not only about knowing that we're different, but about accepting that we're all different. Diversity is great. We don't have to be afraid of other lifestyles or other opinions. Everybody acts the way they act for some reason. We don't have to want the same. We don't have to look for the same.
You can even learn something from the people you hate most. The ones you agree the least with. Because learning something from someone is not the same as being taught something from someone.
We always want to be taught and many of us always want to teach. But we need to use our own mind. Everyone. Nobody told our far ancestors how to do a fire. They observed nature and learned from it. Nature didn't teach them.
You're not the only one here. You're not the one to save every single person. That doesn't mean that you can't have any ambitions. No! But no one is flawless. Neither am I, neither are you. Neither are your parents nor your teachers. And that's fine. Even considering that, we can all learn from each other. That's how life works. You won't always succeed and you won't always be right. You won't always be happy and you won't always know what to do. This applies to absolutely everyone.
Stay strong and keep appreciating your life. Self-pity won't take you anywhere. Trying to cover your problems and defects won't either. Accept your problems, accept yourself, then you can truly accept others. Then you can do your best to improve and move on. Never stop moving on!
Even what I am doing right now is simply writing down my own thoughts, hoping to inspire at least one of the readers of this post.
So, at the end of the day, you will keep making mistakes and you will keep experiencing things that you don't like. But none of them, no matter how big they are, none of them is a reason to stop hoping. Keep your faith. Your faith in yourself. Your faith in the ones you love. Your faith in the things you love. You need to be strong. There's no one out there who can be strong for you. It's you. No excuses.
And now I shut up :)
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